If you don’t know the answer to these questions, as in you have and clarified, or you are afraid to ask, do not pass GO.

You’re supposed to be getting to know each other and if you talk about your exes you may actually end up communicating that you’re still emotionally invested. Don’t start acting like you’re in a relationship when you’re are to do this. Do not put people on a pedestal because the only place for them to look at you is from above, which means you are beneath them.

You will make the other person nervy if you go into girlfriend/boyfriend mode when you’ve not established whether you’re in a relationship or in fact don’t even know them. This creates a dangerous, imbalanced relationship that is difficult to recover from. There are some people who won’t live up to the hype they created on the first few dates.

If you rely on sexual chemistry and common interests and forget to discover whether you share common values and the other landmarks of healthy and successful relationships, you will mistake personality for character, lust and attraction for the presence of shared core values, and will ultimately struggle to understand why you cannot move forward with somebody with whom you believe you have so much in common. All that someone being very good at sex tells you is that they’re very good at sex and/or very practised at it. It will feel as if it’s a painful interview and it’ll become a numbers game. It is also likely that the emotions that are still attached to your ex will create drama in itself.

All that someone who you feel a physical/sexual attraction to when you know nothing about their character or suitability tells you is that you are horny based on their appearance and the illusion of what they they have sex with you. Never date until you have reduced your baggage to hand luggage. Getting out there and meeting people like they used to do in ‘olden times’ (the time before t’internet), is still the most effective way. In fact, you have no real reason to talk about your ex on the first few dates.

Oh and of course it’s not fair on the people you’re dating! If you are going to date online, you need the hide of a rhino, good detective skills, and a willingness and ability not to let your imagination run wild. The reason is if there is something about your ex that is vitally important that they know. If you’re already making exceptions for someone you are dating, it is a sign of not so great things to come.

Example: They’re stalking you and anyone you date, you have a child together etc. As dating is a discovery phase where you should be aware of things that potentially signal a relationship not happening, turning a blind eye to what may be code amber and code red stuff is not in your interests. Remember to act like you’re worthy and in the same league.

For you to have a sense of who they are, the relationship or the possibility of one, and whether it feels good for you, you need to be capable of engaging with them with your eyes and ears open.

The dating shouldn’t be one-sided and if your needs can’t be met while you run around meeting theirs, it is a sign of a dangerous, imbalanced relationship. Just because someone is interested in you it doesn’t mean that you have to reciprocate.

The main thing to consider when deciding whether to shave or not before a first date is to ask yourself what feels natural for you.

It's also a good idea to stick with a beard if you've got a bushy beard and a tan from working outside as you don't want strange tan lines on your first date.

Sex whilst it can be very enjoyable confuses the hell out of things.