As a trans woman on dating apps, I’ve always made sure that guys are aware that I am transgender. There have also been many documented cases of trans women being hurt and sometimes even killed when they disclose their status to transphobic men that found them attractive, so disclosing my status is also a way of protecting myself from potentially dangerous situations.

As I click, message and swipe through the world of online dating, I’ve quickly learned that there are at least three different types of guys: those who fetishize trans women, those who are curious but cautious, and those who simply don’t read.

They view me as exotic, a kink, something new to try.

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But I finally reached my limit when one of my dates bumped into someone he knew when we were together.

Despite the fact that we were on our third date, he didn’t even acknowledge my existence as I stood there a couple feet from him while he talked to his friend.

The headline reads "Chance for a Spinster" and though "spinster" is mostly used as insult now, at the time he was just trying to call out all the single ladies. It's honestly an incredibly relatable problem, even in 2017.

Damn, an 18-year old with good teeth and 10 acres of seeded land? And the poor chap didn't have Tinder to see what hoop-skirt loving ladies were living in his area.

Since transitioning in I haven’t reacted positively to guys who hit on me in person because I haven’t mastered the art of telling them that we have “the same parts.” For the past three years, Tinder has been my gateway into online dating as a transgender woman.

As a 22-year-old grad starting a career in fashion (and hopefully, one day, my own size-inclusive clothing line), I am drawn to guys who are funny and ambitious.

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With my accounts on Ok Cupid, Tinder, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel and Christian Mingle, I am subjected to the same kind of messages from Mr.

Washboard-Abs-No-Face and unsolicited dick pics that most women, unfortunately, receive. Right as a transgender woman (I was born male, but identify and present as female) adds a whole new dimension to digital dating.

With these men, I went on dates in public at the movies, or a chill restaurant, and I was viewed as more than a new sexual experience—but I don’t think I was seen as potential relationship material either. We vibed well and there was sexual tension building during our dates. After a month, he reached out to me saying he couldn’t be with me because I am transgender.