When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: Can I set limits and still be a loving person?

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Their personal experience of being “older” Christian singles brings a perspective sorely needed to the Dating & Marriage section of our local Christian bookstores.

I’d recommend to Christians who are actively dating, grappling with what they believe about dating, or have had dating issues in the past.

Simply put, my fellow Christian singles, let’s learn all we can and figure out this healthy dating stuff now so that we too will be able to start marriage right…even if it takes some struggling and wrestling, a few tears, maybe a few years, and perhaps even some book tossing and retrieving!

Implementing dating boundaries are, for sure,a step in the right direction.

After all, the One who designed emotional connections knows best how they are best conducted, in a way that is satisfying for us and glorifying to him.” They also pose the all-important question young adults need to honestly ask themselves: “Does [the dating relationship] bring you closer to God, or push you further away?

” An additional source of encouragement to me, personally, was that this book wasn’t written by twenty-two year olds, and it wasn’t written by authors who married at twenty two either. Dating is simply different in post-college adulthood, and, overall, the topics addressed in are geared toward adults, not the high school and college demographic. Cloud and Townsend married their wives well into their thirties and, therefore, had to navigate dating throughout their twenties and early thirties themselves.I’ve wrestled with what I believe about dating, its purpose, and whether or not it’s good for me to date (with proper boundaries, of course!), or if it’s better to wait until a man—my man— pursues me with the intention of marriage. I’ve realized by personal experience and by observing the dating (or non-dating) lives of the Christian adults around me that many of us are relationally stunted. We don’t know how to date, because we’ve never done it or we’ve never done it right. From the very first chapter, the authors set up the premise that they are, in some ways, addressing the “kiss dating good-bye” approach promoted just a couple years before was released in the year 2000.I have purchased the paperback of this awesome book.Much thanks to the authors for their continuous efforts!!So this book addresses the common missteps in dating due to a lack of appropriate boundaries, as well as establishes the good benefits that result from healthy dating relationships, whether or not these relationships lead to the marriage altar.