ASPEN, Colo.—Usually when a group of middle-aged people gather to kvetch about twenty-somethings, it's about how they're always texting, or they spend too much time on the social medias, or they're boomeranging back to their parents' homes because they're afraid to just walk right up to a business owner, look him straight in the eye, and ask for a job.But at the Aspen Ideas Festival Tuesday, a unique Millennial gripe was aired: Kids these days, they just don't know how to fall in love.As a result, they are growing in size, producing more research, and educating more graduate students.

I mean, not that I’m an expert [], but I am pretty good at telling other girls what to do. And I’m actually super excited about talking about singleness in college, about how to really LIVE, about how to make life choices when you are single. And, to quote the director of the ministry, I have to tell the boyz “5 things we wish the opposite sex knew”. I mean, I wish boys knew to tell me I look good in workout clothes. If you could tell Christian college girls one thing about dating, what would it be? Bring your wisdom, bring your jokes, bring your knowledge.

You know I dig standing in front of a group of girls and talking about boys, dating, life. [.] But there is a point, later in Saturday, where I talk with the college boys. If you could tell Christian college dudes one thing about dating, what would it be? That way, we can all influence their dating futures together.

This weekend, I will be joining some friends and leading a relationships retreat for a college campus ministry.

I wish boys in college knew that when you take me on a drive through the country listening to really good music and the windows are down and the sun is shining on my face, I’m pretty sure we are in love and going to get married really soon.

Which makes it hard when, in a relationship, your reality is that you will go to the farmer's market and make a healthy salad together, and your partner's reality is Starcraft.

Gottlieb also thinks college kids don't know how to interact face-to-face anymore.

If college students were better-equipped to start and maintain relationships, her thinking goes, they would feel more fulfilled in adulthood.

Leaving the session, I ran into a group of three moms of college-aged kids who were vociferously debating the panelists' points.

One reason why today's college kids seem so lost when it comes to some of the basic functions of adulthood, they seemed to agree, was that their parents (meaning themselves) had held their hands a little too firmly throughout childhood.

For every problem there was a parent-teacher conference, for every closed door a string-pulling phone call.

And in so far as universities are laboratories of successful adulthood, coursework about relationships "are Gottlieb said that the emphasis on college campuses these days seems to be on independence, or the idea that students shouldn't settle down too soon.