We weren’t fooled when they purposefully confused success and failure.Real confidence comes from past success when failure was likely.When we feel happy, we tend to notice things that will make us happy.

Whether it's confidence or self-assuredness—whatever you call it—nearly 80% of the 1,800 women we recently surveyed identified it as the sexiest trait a man can possess.

Now, in real life, Woody went on to marry his daughter, and while we wouldn't recommend that to anyone—not even the biggest losers—it does show that being the man you really are is truly the easiest way to get the woman you want.

I think the self confidence movement has it wrong on this point.

In Little League, we all kept score in our heads since our moms didn’t want us to feel bad about losing.

THE BOTTOM LINE: When it comes to dating, always resist the temptation to change.

Instead, intensify your personality: If you're shy, take a book to the bar; if you're the life of the party, initiate the body shots; if you're a one-woman guy, keep holding out for that long-term relationship.

And since you're looking for a mate, never keep dating a girl simply for companionship or sex. Don't e-mail her or leave a message more than once before receiving a response (and no drunk-dialing).

Cut your losses the minute you know she's not "the one" (don't worry, she's out there). If she doesn't call you back, she's not interested—it's really that simple.

“Women won’t say ‘yes’ to going out unless they already know and like you,” he said.