You and your husband need to address the following: 1. Teens learn to negotiate their feelings and relationships while they are still young and under your roof. See my website for more articles like this: have no business dating let alone being in any sort of "serious" relationship when in school.As we all know, relationships and healthy dating take a lot of practice and trial and error. Televised media helped to promote this idea that kids are supposed to have boyfriend/girlfriends and are supposed to be dating. Naturally as kids view movies, shows, read books and all they will think that this is the "norm" and it is up to the parents to tell them that when in school, they have no business dating. Naturally, teenagers get more romantic feelings for people. Middle school and high school are the times where teens can experiment with relationships.

Wherever people got the notion that kids should be dating while in school simply baffles me.

If a kid cannot figure how to handle their "feelings" with their friends then they certainly will not gain anything with a boyfriend/girlfriend.

I'd focus on curfew, I'd limit activities for a 13 year old to 9pm, but might let a 17 yr old stay out until 11 or 12, depending on the individual.

I am a mother of two kids one is 13 and another is 11.

Last week the 12 year old asked when she can start dating.

I was shocked that she would even think about the concept of dating at such a young age.

My 13 year old boy already has a girlfriend but with no sexual activity.

My 11 year old daughter found out a boy likes her so she's been telling me stuff.

Yet other teens do go on dates with each other that are somewhat more formal where one member of the couple picks up the other one in a car for an afternoon or evening together that has been pre-planned.