“We went on a couple of great dates, but he wouldn’t respond to texts for over 24 or 26 hours, and when he did, he was just a horrible communicator,” she explains.

She said that any potential partner must be able to maintain witty banter as well as respond in a timely manner “so as not to induce panic on the recipient’s end.” The texting delay led Levin to end things with the man.

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But unlike the phone call, which has been around for decades, texting and messaging are new enough that no one can agree on what the hard and fast rules are, which means a typo might doom a future relationship.

A winky face may be creepy to one person and friendly to another.

MORE: Why Bumble Wants to Beat Tinder at Its Own Game And yet the importance of texting grows with each passing Valentine’s Day.

As more and more couples meet online or through dating apps, texting has become not only a means of seduction, but also the foundation upon which a future might be built.

“When we would hang out he was funny and charismatic and a great conversationalist.

But anytime I made a joke over text he would respond seriously, killing the witty banter vibe and ending the conversation.” Lara Levin, a 27-year-old living in San Francisco, says she met a man on the dating app Hinge and saw him for over two months before deciding their texting habits were incompatible.

I’d heard similar complaints from friends: potential dates who texted too much, too little; used too many emojis, didn’t seem to understand emojis at all; were too serious, used to many “lols” when they clearly were not .

Each text was carefully analyzed for hidden meaning.

Whether a witty repartee is established in those first few messages on Tinder or Bumble could be the first step to a lasting relationship.

And the problems persist among long-term couples for whom texting and emailing have in many ways supplanted face-to-face conversations.

“Oh my God, he’s so desperate,” my friend said when she saw my screen. My friend, who lived strictly by the rule that you should not double text for fear of looking too “thirsty,” as the kids call it, was aghast. My now-boyfriend has been teased for “texting like a girl,” but it was immediately one of my favorite things about him.