Christelyn: I have tremendous respect for Shonda Rhimes. Neither of those characters are the caricature of a Black woman.

We have layers, and like all women, we are complicated and splendid creatures.

I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.

It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?

Learn more about Christelyn via her blog, Beyond Black & White, and check out her book, Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed.

We, at e Harmony, are committed to helping black men and women find love that lasts, we are confident in our ability to do so.

The internet has been an absolute boon for people who are open to dating interracially.

Places online like Interracial Dating allows for men and women to take all the guess work out of wondering whether or not a non-Black person is open to them.

I often hear the old, tired line that black folks need to work on themselves before they can mingle romantically with other races. You can still advocate for change and love your blackness if you have a non-black spouse.

Being in an interracial relationship doesn’t make you Black.

It’s time to have an honest, open discussion about interracial relationships.