After having arranged to meet someone (platonic or romantic) I generally turn up alone, or if I have reservations I may have a friend politely bid their farewells when they are comfortable the person I am meeting is not a criminal. He had a quick wit and a gorgeous smile, I would have liked to have spent some time getting to know him without a chaperone.We may meet up again and I sincerely hope we do (unless of course he reads this and becomes terrified of me).The first serious site that showed up was number 7 on the list and it disturbed me.

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We got along well and I enjoyed his company, until is philandering ways became apparent. It felt like he was a little boy hiding from his mother, not the strapping man that I had thought he was.

Even at that point, he cowered and seemed incapable of admitting and facing the truth of his own behaviour. I recently arranged to catch up with an intelligent man I had come across, but on our first meeting he brought along a female friend.

Also it is unclear to me if the separation of men and women (for example in the trains) is a reaction to the violence or the cause.

Feeling a little uneasy, I continue on with my internet research and find this blog on Reasons to Marry an Indian Man.

One commentator in the article argues that the separation of males and females contributes to sexual violence, as women are viewed only as sexual objects.

I am not sure about this as in western societies, where there is no such delineation, women are also viewed as sexual objects and sexual violence still occurs.

Reflecting on these experience I felt a bit perplexed, so I typed “Indian Men” into Google.

Up popped a couple of sites linking me to “Hot Men” lists, and of course the obligatory dating site where I could find Indian men.

According to the article more than 65% of Indian men believed that women should tolerate violence to keep the family together and that women sometimes deserved to be beaten, furthermore 24% admitted to having committed sexual violence in their lives.