Recently, a colleague of mine, a successful psychologist in her mid-30s, confided in me about an ongoing problem she faces in her dating life: She feels that she’s simply too tall for most men, standing at almost six feet.

The issue she struggles with is the same issue many other tall women deal with as they look for a good romantic partner.

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When we talk about tall women, there’s what many people think of as ‘sexy-tall,’ the range of height where women are, say, 5’8” or 5’9”.

These women have the best of all possible worlds: They’re tall to the point that it’s easier to stay thin or carry weight well, but not so tall that they face the stigma of men not wanting want to date a tall woman.

“Overall, I think you look pretty good,” for example, or “I like my [insert body part].” If you can’t come up with a few body parts that you like, you need to accept that you’re not going to attract a good guy until you feel better about your body. I remember after Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise divorced, she joked on a talk show that she could “finally wear high heels.” Wrong, Nicole: It would have been better for your self-esteem to have worn them all along. If you’re a tall woman who’s dating someone new, odds are that the height issue is going to come up in conversation.

If he broaches the issue, don’t be defensive but feel free to ask him where he stands on the issue.

The two traits men are ultimately most attracted to in women are happiness and self-confidence, so it’s important for women’s own self-esteem – and their dating chances – that they feel confident and proud of their body.

The key for very tall women is to figure out which men are open to dating a very tall woman, and which ones are not.After you’ve heard your new guy’s response, feel free to state your own position – another indicator of confidence. I’ve never really understood what the big deal is, because I’m happy with my body.” Men love women who like themselves, and confronting this issue directly allows you to remind him that you are clear, know what you want, and – most importantly – like yourself enough to stand up for the things you believe in!At the end of the day, tall women make terrific friends, family members, and romantic partners.Ever go to a huge family party and get separated from your SO, only to be corned by Aunt Susie who has a 1,000,001 questions about you and your intentions?What about a concert, sporting event, or even J&H/Morgan dining hall?Never fear, having a tall girlfriend makes these situations a thing of the past!