Dating vs hanging out article
To help you decide which traditional practices to use and which to abandon, here’s a brief breakdown of how some of those techniques apply today.
Paying for the Date Years ago men were expected to pay for everything.
So to make sure you stay in the “date” category by adopting the traditional dating custom of paying for your date.
There is however an exception to this rule: If the girl invites you out (especially if she takes you someplace way out of your price range) you’re fine simply offering to split the bill.
We all know that efforts often go away soon enough, but hey, if there's no effort at all at the very beginning, how much downhill is it gonna go... It could be a down-to-earth guy who will always be good and dependable, if not particularly exciting. Big ticket dates (fancy dinners or expensive concerts or amusement parks) are usually bad.
Sometimes this can be better than a flashy beginning that goes up in smoke shortly thereafter. I thought the buy-a-car-then-rent-a-movie-watch-it-at-his-place date sounded like he was a smooth operator until you mentioned you didnt even make out. Dates are supposed to be about getting to know each other & getting comfortable (physically) with each other, so go with whatever does that.
It’s not your obligation to pay for her when she’s the one extending the invitation.
Keep Chivalry Alive One common complaint about modern dating culture is that men don’t take care of women the way they used to.
On the first date, we were able to talk (and I knew him from before , like an aquaintance), becasue we ended up choosing a movie that started an hour after we got the the theatre. The 2nd date, I know car dealership a little odd, but his deal was done, he was doing paperwork and picking up the car.
we wern't there too long, then we went on our "date" in his car.
Since you're asking, though, I'd imagine you don't feel quite right about it, either. This is something a somewhat established couple does.