There are several reasons I’m for short first emails.

With online dating, the first message can make or break your chances of a successful first date.

I would write overly long and, in my head, witty emails that very rarely received responses. My rule here is very simple: keep your first email very short.

Once, I wrote no less than two pages based on a girl’s heading to her profile. I thought I was making conversation but all I was making was a girl scared. Give anything longer than three sentences a good, hard look before sending.

You know, there could be a situation where it's acceptable to bring up masturbation in a first text message, because, you know..wait, no there's not.

Gentlemen, here's a tip for you: If a woman wants to know about your masturbation habits, she'll probably ask you about them.

Well, you can start by remembering these three basic rules: It’s not that “You’ve got a great smile, let’s go out sometime” is a bad opener. I read your profile and thought it was really amazing. So please look at my profile and if you like what I had to say, write back to me when you get a chance. If you’re too complimentary in that initial email, you can come off as desperate and needy. Still, the question remains: how do you say something original and flirty?

Yours, Evan Every line of this message can be thrown out. Because anyone whom you contact knows by virtue of you writing to them that a) you liked their profile, b) you liked their photo and c) you’d like a reply. That, my friends, is what separates the most successful online daters from the rest of the pack. In this case, I’ve written them for men replying to women, but the steps are applicable to everyone: Every word of it.It is also worth noting that most often discuss this from the point of view of a man contacting a woman, since that was my experience, but my hope is that the thoughts here are helpful to anyone.This discussion is primarily for sites such as where you write the online dating first message yourself (see more on how works if you’re not familiar with what I’m referring to).How important is it to write a good online dating first email?The answer to that may seem obvious, but just in case it isn’t let me say: writing a great first message in online dating is critical to success or failure in your dating life.As I discuss in my free online dating guide, successful online dating relies in part on making great first impressions.