Positive communication focuses on respect for the child and involves both speaking and listening. Positive communication leads to nurturing relationships, cooperation, and feelings of worth.

(Example: "Sarah." Wait until she stops playing with the doll and looks at you.) Communication is more effective if both people are on the same level. It should show that you are serious and expect the child to comply.

Adults need to stoop down to the child's level or sit beside her. Say "Please," "Thank you," and "You're welcome" to the child.

Children are more likely to carry out desired behaviors when we add these courtesies. Jones, Director, Virginia Cooperative Extension, Virginia Tech, Blacksburg; M.

Nagging a child to say "please" or "thank you" sets a bad example. Virginia Cooperative Extension materials are available for public use, reprint, or citation without further permission, provided the use includes credit to the author and to Virginia Cooperative Extension, Virginia Tech, and Virginia State University. Ray Mc Kinnie, Administrator, 1890 Extension Program, Virginia State University, Petersburg.

Not long ago, the Schumacher family received a mysterious email from a sender named Huseyin B.

The email was sent to Schumacher's wife, Corrina, on Valentine's Day last year and it sent a lot of shivers to the family.

During the court case, the blackmailer's lawyer said that his client still couldn't explain why he had resorted to the act of threatening the Schumacher family.

After the whole proceeding, Huseyin B was given a suspended sentence of a year and nine months.

Adults should communicate with children with the respect and consideration they give their friends. The Power of Positive Parenting, Salt Lake City: Northwest Publishing, Inc., 1994.

Sometimes, adults spend so much time talking "to" the child that they neglect the listening part of communication. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk.

Make sure that your requests are short, clear and consistent.