They go to bed with someone who does, or doesn't, think it's a bad idea to blow the rent-check on school clothes.

One thing I've come to understand, through my own relationship, is that for people who are really working at commitment, a relationship quickly ceases to be a political statement.

There is certainly part of me that feels my partnership with a black woman says something about me. The problem is that no committed person goes to bed with black spouse or a white spouse.

I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped.

But something in me just knew he didn't marry a sister. My body showed no reaction to my inner pinch, but the sting was there, quiet like a mosquito under a summer dress. Did the reality of his relationship somehow diminish his soul's credibility? One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that's not how I was brought up. I was taught that every man should be judged by his deeds and not his color, and I firmly stand where my grandmother left me.

I'm a black dude hooked up with a black woman--but I don't sleep with "black people." "Black people" don't pay half of my rent.

"Black people" didn't take my son to tennis lessons this week.

When we bemoan Reggie Bush's relationship, we overstate our knowledge, understate our ignorance, highlight our lack of a serious life, and low-ball our own worth.

It's petty gossip masquerading as social commentary, and unbecoming of a "welcoming and open-minded" people.

The beautiful ceremony took place in Los Angeles yesterday with a small group of family and friends.