Last year, Susan Patton, a Princeton grad and the mother of two sons at the elite college, outraged feminists when she wrote an open letter to the Daily Princetonian telling female students to find a husband on campus before they graduate.The red alert — which argued that these Ivy League college girls “would never again be surrounded by this concentration of men who would be worthy of you” — went viral with more than 100 million hits.Indeed, their morality is apparently so interesting and compelling that it made Dominus introspective and self-conscious.

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I felt, at times, that I was a rusty caliper, trying to take the measurement of some kind of advanced nanotechnology.

Sorry, but hedonism and self-obsession aren’t “advanced nanotechnology”; they’re sins as old as mankind.

Writer Susan Dominus profiles multiple non-monogamous couples without a trace of judgment, charting their paths to open marriages, following their new love interests, and circling back months later to track their progress. They seem to regard a boring marriage bed as a human-rights violation, as if they were absolutely to thrilling sex.

Here’s one wife describing her insistence on maintaining an extramarital relationship: “I really just felt like it was right, like it was important to my growth.

And the more Dominus writes, the more apparent it becomes that these old sins still have the same familiar consequences.

Interestingly, she found that the open marriages she studied were typically initiated by the woman, and the resulting picture wasn’t so much exciting as pathetic and sad.

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It was like I was choosing to take a stand for my own pleasure and sticking to it.

It was so strong, that feeling.” Sex and growth — those themes echo throughout the piece.

In one of the profiled marriages, the wife has a long-term “happy” relationship with a married man who’s concealing the affair from his wife. So much for all relevant parties consenting to the relationship.