In addition to passing judgment, people make assumptions about what I like, how I feel, and what I eat.

It’s always strange and amusing when a man is shocked to learn that I’m successful in my career, drive a new car, live in a nice home, etc.

Another I will never forget, but not because it was so tactful: “I would have sex with you, but I’d never be able to introduce you to my friends or family.” I’m not an alien!

In fact, I happen to be a very friendly person with a solid sense of humor.

As if my being plus sized has somehow earmarked me for failure in life across the board.

Surely, I must sit at home eating ice cream all the time watching reruns.

I’ve been on the receiving end of some rather shocking insults I never would have dreamt a person could say.

One I’ll never forget: “Your shape is not desirable to me.” At least he tried to make it sound like a business transaction.

My bottom line on dating is actually what I imagine it would be for many people: never let anyone convince you that you’re not entitled to self-respect and pride because of an abnormality.

And I think that in the end, what people fail to remember is that we all have our abnormalities — our flaws.

No law says I have to lower my standards, even though sometimes a guy will make me feel like I do. I’ll never forget the time a friend implied that I should “keep to my own.” Since I am heavy, I guess I need to date a heavy guy. I'm not allowed to be attracted to Chris Evans because he's fit.