Sometimes, simply taking your communication off the online dating site you’re using is a decent way to get a better feel for someone’s personality.

Here’s my idea of a heartwarming video: hundreds of women, thousands of us, a massed chorus, all saying “NO”, all being listened to.

Online dating can be enjoyable and exciting, as it’s designed to be a low-pressure environment to have conversations with new people and find someone you share a lot in common with.

” (Alas, by the time I clocked what “this” was, it was all too late and our intimacy had reached a plane I never wished it to reach.) Anyway, the thing that is interesting in the video is not really Tom’s quest for a “yes” from some woman, any woman – well any woman who’s young and pretty, and whimsically accessorised with maybe a hat or some rollerskates.

The thing that’s interesting is what the rejections look like.

While that doesn’t mean your offline chemistry is doomed to fail, it’s likely that you’ll be swimming upstream to make things work.

Conversely, if the conversation is flowing after a few back-and-forth messages, then that’s an excellent sign that there’s chemistry.

It happens on the street and it happens in the bedroom too.

A couple of weeks ago, a leaked video emerged showing Vine star Carter Reynolds pressuring his 16-year-old girlfriend into performing oral sex: “I’m really uncomfortable,” she says as he proffers his penis, and then as he persists, “I don’t think I can… But because it’s a woman refusing sex, it is somehow translated to an inaudible register, somewhere beyond notice. Because for all the words spilled about the sacred importance of consent, there can be no meaning in our “yes” unless we have our “no” first.

While studies like this one found that individuals who asked someone out within 17 to 23 days of initial contact usually had good first dates, there’s no definite amount of time that you need to wait before you take online dating offline.