Questions to ask when getting to know someone dating
Would you rather live in a small house with an amazing view, or a massive mansion in a subdivision? What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received from someone? Before making a phone call, do you ever reserves what you’re going to say? If you could pick one, would you rather have infinite money or love?
Within the covenant community of faith, there should be those around a person that can speak of their reputation and whether they are serious about growing in the Lord and putting sin to death in their life. Is there seriousness in this person to grow in their relationship and understanding with the Lord?
Because what I have tragically found is that Christian singles hit an area of desperation, particularly young women, and they will go: “Yeah, he is a Christian, he comes to church.” And really what they’re saying is this guy comes to church a couple of times a month, but outside of attending a service, he doesn’t have a real seriousness about growing in his understanding of the Lord, growing in his understanding of the Bible, being a prayerful person, no vivication or mortification that can be spotted, and no one who really knows them enough to speak to the growth in their character.
Now practically speaking, this means singles are seeking out people to speak into their lives.
They are being discipled, whether that be organizationally or organically, whether they are part of a church’s system for discipleship or they just found an older man or an older woman and invited that person to speak into their lives.
If you had unlimited money, what would you do with it? What are the craziest things you’ve ever done with someone else?
If someone in your family passed away, which person would surprise you the most? If you could go back in time, what would you want to change? When was the last time you cried in front of someone else? What’s the right number of people to invite over a Friday night? If tomorrow you woke up with a new quality, talent or ability, what would you like it to be? If your house caught on fire, what would be one thing you would have to save first? What’s your most terrible memory that you’d love to forget about? If you could have dinner with anyone in the world, past or present, who would it be? If you could play the role in any movie, what person would you want to be? An emotional path opens up and your mind starts to take over.