The situation felt menacing — would I find a rabbit stew boiling on the stove? Certain queries can reveal a lot of info in a short amount of time about a person you've just met. As I learned the hard way with my would-be Glenn Close, it's unwise to welcome anyone into your abode unless you know them well.

Note: Dating services' official rules for dating online are located under their websites' terms of use.

They suggest appropriate behavior, but screening is minimal — so I strongly urge you to use the tips above to create your own safety zone.

If you sense danger, keep your wits about you and find a way to safely exit as quickly as possible.

If you feel more comfortable having an "out," in case the date goes awry, you can always start off your date on the early side, or you can tell your date that you have a timeline because you're going to meet your friends afterward." title="" src="data:image/gif;base64, R0l GODlh AQABAIAAAAAAAP///y H5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" data-src="https://hips.hearstapps.com/cos.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/14/25/539fd5dbf13b0_-_cos-06-couple-flirting-de.jpg? If you feel early on like something is off, excuse yourself and text a friend to come meet you.

If your phone conversations go well, and you feel like you know enough about the guy to be ready to go out on a date, be sure to meet in a neutral, public place.

(As in, not at one your apartments.) This just adds an additional layer of security, especially if you only met once in person or haven't actually met at all yet." title="" src="data:image/gif;base64, R0l GODlh AQABAIAAAAAAAP///y H5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" data-src="https://hips.hearstapps.com/cos.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/14/25/539fd5db9775f_-_cos-04-date-in-bar-de.jpg?

If you sense danger, keep your wits about you and safely exit as quickly as possible.

If you feel more comfortable having an "out," in case the date goes awry, you can always start off your date on the early side, or tell your date that you to leave to meet your friends afterward.

You could also check in with her a few hours into the date to let her know you're a-okay." title="" src="data:image/gif;base64, R0l GODlh AQABAIAAAAAAAP///y H5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" data-src="https://hips.hearstapps.com/cos.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/14/25/539fd5dbd0cc5_-_cos-05-friends-out-for-drink-toasting-de.jpg?

resize=768:*" /Consider signing on a girlfriend to back you up in the safety department.

inappropriate comments off the bat, acting overly familiar too quickly, anything that sets off your instincts.