Can heterosexual men and women ever be “just friends”?

Although women seem to be genuine in their belief that opposite-sex friendships are platonic, men seem unable to turn off their desire for something more. But if we all thought like men, we’d probably be facing a serious overpopulation crisis.

And even though both genders agree overall that attraction between platonic friends is more negative than positive, males are less likely than females to hold this view. Are you a scientist who specializes in neuroscience, cognitive science, or psychology?

The results suggest large gender differences in how men and women experience opposite-sex friendships.

Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa.

Males were significantly more likely than females to list romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, and this discrepancy increased as men aged—males on the younger end of the spectrum were four times more likely than females to report romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, whereas those on the older end of the spectrum were ten times more likely to do the same.

Taken together, these studies suggest that men and women have vastly different views of what it means to be “just friends”—and that these differing views have the potential to lead to trouble.Men seem to see myriad opportunities for romance in their supposedly platonic opposite-sex friendships.The women in these friendships, however, seem to have a completely different orientation—one that is actually platonic.What we hope for are mutual declarations and a bashful relationship status change, but what we too often receive is a noncommittal disclaimer that obvious attraction and flirtation do not always a future boyfriend make. If a man tells you he’s not ready to be boyfriend material, realize that he’s In a world of flakiness and straight-up ghosting, frank honesty is commendable.At some point or another, we have to get some clarification as to what exactly is going on here or risk getting stuck in the ambiguous friend zone.? After all, he’s giving you the power to ascertain the situation more clearly by setting expectations instead of leading you on a confusing wild-goose chase.More often than not, dating opens women up to a world of confusion that too often ends in hurt. He may also want to have life experiences or work on himself first before he gets into a serious relationship.”The second time I heard a man say he couldn’t be a boyfriend, I was actually relieved.