If you drift apart, you know they were never going to commit and you saved yourself time, trouble, and heart ache.

If it’s “to get to know someone”, you’ll probably seem interview-ish. People like being around fun, low-pressure people with no expectations.

The best way to look at a date is a chance to have fun. As things progress, that’s when you get to know each other.

The final milestone is when you know it’s official – whether you say it’s a serious relationship or not.

Unscheduled Time Together When you start hanging out together without making plans in advance, you know things are getting serious.

If all goes well, you won’t have to do “the talk” of whether or not you’re a serious couple.

Watch for these milestones, and you’ll know if the casual dating phase is almost over.Two, they don’t want to get serious but want the other benefits of dating.Let them know what you’re looking for and pull back a bit.Dating Tips and Q&A with Yours Truly I wrote the first version of this article in 2012, and since then I’ve gotten hundreds of emails and comments asking about what to do in certain situations.Here are the most common questions and my answers to each. Other times you really like someone and it doesn’t work out, and you’ve probably wondered if there was anything you could’ve done differently.