Isn't the whole point of dating to find someone you dig and then actually get to talk to and hang out with that person?Makes zero sense to us—and kinda sounds like playing games, which we are so not into.

In response, Swider pieced it together quite nicely: “You’re looking for someone who’s a guy’s guy on the surface, but underneath he’s got a little more going on.” I was tempted to slow clap. Just because Christy was interested in being set up doesn’t mean the male community would be interested in letting a stranger send them on dates — especially when TDR’s core demographic is people in their 20s and 30s.

After all, if Christy’s having trouble meeting someone, what makes Swider any more qualified, or lucky, even?

But, there is also a real-life person (in New York, that’s Swider) you can hire to go out into the world and meet people for you.

The company’s name is no mistake: It’s a play on the unwritten rule that you should wait three days before calling someone you like.

They’re not just waiting around for a guy,” added Swider. “I date guys who are nice and smart, but there’s no spark.”If you’ve done any kind of online dating, Swider’s questions probably feel familiar to you.

For the initial consultation — which comes free of both cost and pressure — Swider asked Christy*, a very cool client who agreed to let me sit in on their meeting, a lot of questions. But, the benefit of having a human asking these questions is that you get a chance to explain that which you cannot communicate by ticking boxes on a list.Christy told Swider she wants a man who is “kind, curious, smart (not necessarily book smart), and socially responsible.” She’s been drawn to finance guys in the past, but knows it’s been a history of poor matches.“What I want to be drawn to isn’t what I’m actually drawn to,” she said, noting she’s had a history of picking guys who are bad for her.So, Swider brought me to the networking event, at this nondescript Chelsea office building, to see her in action.Rather than set up gatherings herself, she’ll head to other organizations’ happy hours and business events after meeting with clients all day to source her match pool.“Guys aren’t traditional the way they used to be,” she explained. Apart from her admittedly terrible taste in television, Christy is a completely eligible bachelorette. You could ask her about her job in the public health field, but she’d rather tell you about the time she spent in Africa building clean-water communities. But, for those living in NYC, she’s one of a growing population of young women unable to meet someone in a city brimming with young hopefuls. ”Christy thinks people in the Big Apple have a very specific problem: “It’s like New Yorkers have Peter Pan syndrome,” she said, speaking to the ways we date a ton but don’t find many actual relationships.