Sex is something you are assigned at birth on the basis of primary sex characteristics (so is usually based on the reproductive functions of your body) and even then it’s not as black and white as you might think.Intersex people are barely acknowledged in sexual education and that's something that needs to change.Being curious is also totally normal - feel free to ask questions and google stuff.

People who don’t experience sexual attraction may identify as asexual.

Some may also identify as a romantic asexual, as while they don’t feel sexual attraction, they still experience feelings of romantic attraction.

Safe sex is the best kind of sex and even if pregnancy is not a concern in the type of sex you are having, it’s important to remember that condoms also protect you from STIs.

If you and your partner haven’t both had a recent clear STI test then it’s so worth using protection until you do, just in case.

Ultimately what is important is to do what feels right to you.

Even though there’s a glorious variety of ways to describe gender and sexual orientation, for some people these still might feel too prescriptive.

Having had sex with a man doesn’t stop you being a lesbian if that is the label that feels right for you.

Ultimately your sexual identity is defined by you and you alone, but experimentation any which way is totally normal and actually, as long as it’s safe sex, it’s a great way to get to know yourself and understand your sexuality.

Perhaps to your friend it could involve fingering, licking or using sex toys. Perhaps to you it means a combination of the above or maybe it means something else entirely – ultimately it’s very much up to you to define.

There’s a difference between the sex and gender, and it’s a pretty important distinction to be aware of.

Annoyingly, realistic accounts of anything other than healthy heterosexual sex lives are still pretty uncommon on TV and in film.