A friend recently shared the article, “Are Christian Guys Not Taking Dating Seriously? She garnered many responses running the gamut of support, qualifications and criticism. The author, a man, looks critically at Christian dating culture and the ways that men feed into some unhealthy trends that have infiltrated the Church. We long for our Prince Charming to sweep us off our feet and live for the moment when he finally will. That is also biblical, just as a call to singleness can be, and God places desires in our hearts for a reason. We will encounter a multitude of relationships with other believers throughout our lives. When we look at the ultimate marriage between Christ and His Church, Christ is clearly the dashing knight we’ve always dreamed of. I don’t want to belittle a woman’s desire for marriage. No wonder our brothers in Christ scare easy, we’ve made an idol out of marriage and that won’t end well for anyone.You never know what the Lord may reveal regardless if it’s only one date or the start of forever. It wasn’t until I was sharing my frustrations with one of these awesome, godly men who should have been asking those beautiful, godly women on dates that I realized how petty my attitude was and how little I was trusting God in the process.

How a man communicates and leads a relationship is important, but we cannot expect him to carry the burden alone.

Hiding who you are, what you think and what your desires are prevents a man from knowing whether or not he could potentially lead you one day in marriage.

On April 24, both agencies of former Wonder Girls member Yeeun and former 2AM member Jinwoon confirmed that the two are no longer in a romantic relationship.

Yeeun’s label Amoeba Culture stated: “After confirming with Yeeun, it is true that she has broken up with Jung Jinwoon.” Meanwhile, Jinwoon’s agency Mystic Entertainment also affirmed that he and his girlfriend have gone their separate ways.

The couple went public with their romantic relationship last September.

However, they have split up after dating for over three years.

I did have a hard time in the beginning, but it was fine.

When it comes to new relationship news among Hallyu stars, 2016 technically is lacking.

Regardless, we have got to stop the inward dialogue that questions whether or not every somewhat attractive, single, godly seeming man is the “one.” We enter into this immediate evaluation of their character, the timing, our prayer life, mutual friends and interests, etc., Next thing you know, we’re playing a love story in our head that hasn’t even happened. They will be friends, authority figures, mentors, disciples and maybe even a husband one day.

We need to stop obsessing about finding our soul mate because we already have one. There are many roles that God has designed and accounted for within His body, but the most important one that we all share is that of His children—heirs to the King.

We cling so desperately to the security that dating labels bring.