Anyone who reads my site for long enough knows I’m a big proponent of the cold approach.

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Other “do not disturb” signs include when she’s reading, writing or working on her laptop.

If she’s in a public place – a cafe, a Starbucks, what-have-you – and she’s reading or on her laptop, then the odds are that she’s there because she , not to flirt.

One of the keys to social calibration is understanding the cues and context that tell you when a woman is open to being approached and when she isn’t.

Now an obvious caveat: people are people and everyone sets their boundaries where they see fit.

Getting off early is no guarantee that she’s going to get away from the guy – there’s really nothing stopping him from deciding “no, this is my stop too” – and adds other risks like being late to work and losing her job.

And if he’s someone who regularly takes the same line she does…All anyone on the Muni, the e L, the Yamanote line, the Underground, or any other form of mass transit wants to do is get through their commute with as minimal irritation as possible. In fact, for many women, mass transit is less of a convenient and economical way of getting from place to place and more of a gauntlet of horror, frustration and harassment that they must run on a daily basis… Almost every woman who’s ever had to take the bus or the subway or the train has had an experience of being harassed – ranging from guys who see nothing wrong with demanding a response from women who clearly want to be left alone to the incredibly dangerous.This is the background radiation of her commute – never knowing if the guy who sits next to her or around her is going to just be annoying or if he’s going to jerk off in front of her.Similarly, she may use obstacles – especially clothes or accessories like a hoodies or sunglasses – as a physical barriers to eye-contact.Wearing headphones or earbuds are another universal “do not disturb” sign; in fact, many people will wear earbuds without actually listening to music want to know what she’s listening to.A woman who’s interested in being approached, for example, might signal the guy she’s attracted to with the classic “lock eyes, look away, look back” move.